Distilled Wisdom
Did a lot of reading of all the material found in various PUA gurus's ebooks, and on websites. The more I read, the more I realize that everybody has his own, distinct way. There's not really a point to memorizing anybody's rules or techniques; the important thing is to internalize the principles and attitude.
What's more: The PUA methods are not actually that different from the "traditional nice guy going on dates" method. The main difference is the mindset, e.g. thinking of screening babes instead of applying for their attention, generally being proactive and talkative and social, and escalating to make your goals clear.
It doesn't really matter if you "use a Neg" or are "cocky and funny". It makes no difference wether you use a memorized, canned opener (provided you pull it off to make it sound non-canned), make an opener up on the spot, or just say Hi without thinking about what comes next. The important thing is to get up and do something, i.e. get talking to her.
Some good general points:
Body language: just assume the most relaxed, most open, most space-consuming position, and you'll get it right.
Attitude: Being alpha and attractive does not work by being nice to her, but by being *not nice* to her, thereby showing her that you are capable of putting someone in his place.
Gender roles: It helps to think of her not as an independent, grown-up woman, but as a kitten that has to be lead, sheltered, trained. I do *not* propose keeping that attitude, woman for sure *are* independent and strong and all that. But in terms of romance, she's just hardwired to look for the dominating male.
And perhaps my 2 favorite things:
DO NOT EVER SAY NO to an invitation to do something that might be fun and/or meet new people.
DO WHAT YOU WANT and feel like, without regard for others' approval.
What's more: The PUA methods are not actually that different from the "traditional nice guy going on dates" method. The main difference is the mindset, e.g. thinking of screening babes instead of applying for their attention, generally being proactive and talkative and social, and escalating to make your goals clear.
It doesn't really matter if you "use a Neg" or are "cocky and funny". It makes no difference wether you use a memorized, canned opener (provided you pull it off to make it sound non-canned), make an opener up on the spot, or just say Hi without thinking about what comes next. The important thing is to get up and do something, i.e. get talking to her.
Some good general points:
Body language: just assume the most relaxed, most open, most space-consuming position, and you'll get it right.
Attitude: Being alpha and attractive does not work by being nice to her, but by being *not nice* to her, thereby showing her that you are capable of putting someone in his place.
Gender roles: It helps to think of her not as an independent, grown-up woman, but as a kitten that has to be lead, sheltered, trained. I do *not* propose keeping that attitude, woman for sure *are* independent and strong and all that. But in terms of romance, she's just hardwired to look for the dominating male.
And perhaps my 2 favorite things:
DO NOT EVER SAY NO to an invitation to do something that might be fun and/or meet new people.
DO WHAT YOU WANT and feel like, without regard for others' approval.
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