Wow. That r in rAFC is definitely justified.
So a friend is having a birthday party,invited all the members of my student organization. Didn't really feel like going, but made myself go, probably due to spending much of the day reading "Never eat alone" - excellent book on networking and business relationships.
Anyway, when I got there, it was not only members of that student organization, but half of the people I didn't know, and would probably not see again - ideal training grounds!
A bit awkward at first, as everybody stuck together in small groups of people who already knew each other, so for warm-up I chatted with some good friends that I hadn't seen in a while.
Then just joined conversation, and after a few beers, opened strangers. All with a definite alpha mindset - was very cocky, in a mindset of "what makes you cool enough for me to hang with you?". And it worked beautifully - all the girls were loving it, just desperate to get to know me.
Typical course of a conversation (paraphrased):
Me:
Her:
Me:
Her: *ding* suddenly eager to qualify herself to me.
The best part was when one of the girls was chatting with me like she was really into me, and then introduced her boyfriend. I didn't even blink, just introduced myself as if I was happy to meet him, and she just kept on chatting with me and ignoring her boyfriend.
It's important to not stay in a set when they're not paying attention to you because somebody else opened them etc, would just make you look weak and needy.
Unfortunately, I didn't get any phone numbers - sometimes I froze them out, and they didn't re-open me, sometimes they left (is it possible to ask for a number when she's leaving and saying a short goodbye in passing?), sometimes I just didn't realize it was time to ask now, and sometimes they passed out drunk ;-)
Another thing I have to work on is to switch into comfort building - sometimes I continued playful busting when I should instead have started with comfort.
But overall, a great night - amazing to see the difference after a few weeks of getting into the pickup artist mindset.
Anyway, when I got there, it was not only members of that student organization, but half of the people I didn't know, and would probably not see again - ideal training grounds!
A bit awkward at first, as everybody stuck together in small groups of people who already knew each other, so for warm-up I chatted with some good friends that I hadn't seen in a while.
Then just joined conversation, and after a few beers, opened strangers. All with a definite alpha mindset - was very cocky, in a mindset of "what makes you cool enough for me to hang with you?". And it worked beautifully - all the girls were loving it, just desperate to get to know me.
Typical course of a conversation (paraphrased):
Me:
Her:
Me:
Her: *ding* suddenly eager to qualify herself to me.
The best part was when one of the girls was chatting with me like she was really into me, and then introduced her boyfriend. I didn't even blink, just introduced myself as if I was happy to meet him, and she just kept on chatting with me and ignoring her boyfriend.
It's important to not stay in a set when they're not paying attention to you because somebody else opened them etc, would just make you look weak and needy.
Unfortunately, I didn't get any phone numbers - sometimes I froze them out, and they didn't re-open me, sometimes they left (is it possible to ask for a number when she's leaving and saying a short goodbye in passing?), sometimes I just didn't realize it was time to ask now, and sometimes they passed out drunk ;-)
Another thing I have to work on is to switch into comfort building - sometimes I continued playful busting when I should instead have started with comfort.
But overall, a great night - amazing to see the difference after a few weeks of getting into the pickup artist mindset.
